Betrayed?

Having a teammate leave the intramural volleyball team because it wasn’t competitive enough. Do I blame him for wanting a really good team? We have a team of people with average talent, and some less than average. They lack experience. But I want to just have fun. Doesn’t mean I don’t want to win, but that isn’t what makes or breaks my enjoyment. Can I blame him for wanting to be intense? At my family reunion we had games when the kids couldn’t play because we wanted it to be more competitive, is this similar? I also see it as a his problem of not being able to associate with people who are ‘below’ him, and needing things to meet his expectations. I would love to be on an intense team, a team that would be challenging me to be better, not where I am leading. But that is not my first priority. I don’t get frustrated with people who haven’t had that experience; it is called grace; it is called learning. I feel with younger kids, there is a difference, because they just haven’t grown up. Is choosing a winning team done to glorify God, or glorify oneself, or just have more fun? I feel betrayed. I cannot believe that there is no commitment to the team. His own joy is more important than the other people. Apparently, he has been forced to do that his whole life, now he just wants to have fun.